Friday, September 16, 2011

I Gave My Adopted Daughter Back to Her Birth Mother

Yes, I stooped to sensationalism with that headline. No, Ashley hasn't gone anywhere. She is still very much my daughter.

But here's what I've learned so far from my journey through open adoption. You can give something back without giving it away. To the contrary, Ashley's bond with me has only strengthened as I have facilitated increased visitation with her biological family. 

Is the headline true? Did I give Ashley back to her first mother, Erica? I believe so. But don't take my word for it. Let Erica tell you herself, in her own words.

9 comments:

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this today - she is an amazing woman and so many could learn so much from her.

    Brooke
    www.TheAnnessaFamily.blogspot.com

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  2. WOW! What an amazing story! It brings a shining ray of joy and hope to the world that normally DOES think that a parent that gives up their child for adoption is a horrible person! But on the contrary, there are many who are GOOD people, good parents who just can't provide for their child like they know the child needs and though immense selfless sacrifice allow that child to be adopted by equally loving parents.

    thank you for sharing this story! I'm so happy it has been such a great experience for you instead of what they portray on TV with the Bio parents being horrible people trying to steal the child back, even though they can't care for them.

    Stopping by from Members to Remember! <3
    www.jadelouisedesigns.blogspot.com

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  3. What a beautiful, strong, empowering post. Thank you!

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  4. I loved this. I left my comment on the end of the story. :-)

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  5. This was a great post thank you for sharing.

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  6. Both posts were just beautiful and I'm crying now! How amazing of you to not let normal fears and insecurities to cloud your view and realizing what your daughter really needs to thrive. Just precious. People have a really hard time understanding being confident and secure in your place as a mom and have no idea how empowering it is for both moms and children.

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  7. Thank you so much for sharing the post...and for sharing what a beautiful thing an open adoption can truly be. As a first mom of a nearly 2 year old girl, I continually deal with nagging fears about not only her placement but my continuing relationship with her and her parents (despite the fact that it was my choice from her birth and she wasn't placed from foster care). Your posts are truly empowering to read.

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  8. This is what child centered means!

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  9. What an amazing story!! I can't even find the words to comment on it.

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