Here are a few of the points she made that resonated with me:
*When adoptive parents show a willingness to be connected to the child's birth family, that communicates acceptance to child.
*Children in open adoptions can get answers to normal questions about their histories, which allows them to move onto other developmental tasks without getting stuck on adoption-related issues.
*It is important for adopted children to be able to talk freely about adoption without worrying about loyalty issues. It is important that they be allowed to care about both sets of parents without feeling guilty.
I'm hoping to write more about this conferences and some of the things that came up for me at it in the coming days.