Friday, March 9, 2012

Five for Friday: International Adoption

1) Nurturing Parenting: First and Second Family

I love what this blogger has to say about the importance of emotional openness. I also love the inclusive definition of family: "We now have family in Ethiopia. When our children are asked about brothers and sisters, they tell the number, including our biological children and their biological (half)siblings, without hesitating." 

I also second this: "It is a basic human right of every person to know about the details of his heritage...."

2) The Power of Ghosts 

In a response to the post listed above, Malinda of China Adoption Talk writes the following:
Even in their absence, and in part because of their absence, birth parents are central to our children's lives, to our family's life. Without knowing who they are or ever meeting them, my children long for them, to know who they are, what they look like, how they live (if they are even living), where they live, whether they are safe, why they could not parent them. Even if we never mentioned them, never acknowledged the existence of ghosts, their birth parents would still be present in our lives. There is a power in what's missing.
Beautifully said. And I couldn't agree more.

3) Land of Gazillion Adoptees Interview of Parents for Ethical Adoption Reform (PEAR)

This interview addresses some uncomfortable issues, including failed adoptions and adoptions that never should have happened because the adoptees were not legal orphans or had family who could care for them. Such matters are part of the complex picture of adoption and can't be ignored. Adoption is flawed strategy for a flawed world, and the folks at PEAR are engaged in important reform work.

I also appreciate the point that just because an adoptee expresses criticism of adoption policies doesn't mean he or she is "angry" and "anti-adoption."

Also: "There’s nothing wrong with adoptees talking about their experiences. In fact, adoptees should be encouraged to share their thoughts, perspectives, experiences, and expertise...." Amen to that!

4) International Adoption and Immigration

This is another post that address some uncomfortable but important issues. I must confess that until relatively recently, it never occurred to me that U.S. adoptees who were born in other nations could be deported to their countries of origin. The very idea of that messes with my mind.

5) Have You Fought to Help Felipe Montes Reunite With His Kids? [Reader Forum]

Continuing with the immigration theme ... in other situations, it's the parents, rather than the children, who are deported. When we think of international adoption, we don't typically think of cases like that of Felipe Montes and his children, but if his children are not returned to him, the end result will be similar: adopted children living in the U.S. with a parent and other relatives living in another country.

I also picked this piece because of nepotism; Channing Kennedy is my brother.


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