Sunday, December 30, 2012

Accepting My Adoptee Fate, and How That Differs from "Moving On"

Lately, I've noticed a shift in how I perceive my adoptee experience. It's possible that I have moved into the acceptance phase of grieving my adoption-related losses. I am feeling lighter, more balanced, and holding a greater appreciation for all that my experiences have brought me. As an adoptee who has struggled to make sense of what it means to be a member of two families, I am perhaps more comfortable with duality, complexity, and ambiguity than I might otherwise have been. I tend to see things through the lens of "both/and" rather than "either/or." I've come to appreciate this about myself, to view it as part of what I have to offer the world.

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1 comment:

  1. It is as Barbara Jean said during the summer "A loss is a loss". A long time ago upon the death of a close loved one I was given this advice about grieving: "Do whatever you need to do as long as you don't hurt yourself or anyone else". To hold oneself in love and not succumb to reaction is one of humans' greatest challenges and greatest rewards.


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