~ brokenness transformed ~
Advertising for babies should not be allowed. With so much in this country that is regulated, it makes no sense that this isn't.
I've seen ads like these. Only fucking child abusers choose closed adoption.
As adoption agencies advertising their services to expectant parents go, I've seen worse. I do think they could be a lot better. Such ads should focus on what services the agency can provide to actually help a woman in an unplanned pregnancy, versus just saying "Here, we have adoptive parents ready now!"
Awful, dishonest--there really is no "choice" ultimately that lies in the hands of the adopters and "Expenses Paid" in bold lettering, terribly coercive as they know that alot of expecting moms are likely facing financial troubles (thank goodness Canada hasn't gone that far yet, although I fear it won't be long) plus, they are "completely confidential" meaning even if you are under 18, we won't tell your parents. And of course the entire implication that "adoption is best for your baby" yuck yuck yuck
This is so icky. I'm really thankful I live in a country where this doesn't happen.
You've hit on the things that bother me, too.
What always amazes me is the complete and utter lack of the use of "Fair Advertising Standards" compliance. Drug companies provide a full page of small text advising adverse reactions, Car Sales provide small text clarifying that to qualify you must do X Y Z...etc. Does the US not go after advertisers who mislead or outright lie to customers to get them in the door? I followed a link to an adoption venn diagram the other day - the abortion section ended with Guilt and Regret! and the adoption section - you may feel sad (prior all the same crap as in the adverts you posted), in the parenting section the first line was that is will cost you $2000 per month to raise you child and also included a strongly worded (threat) that the father would want to be in the child's life. It was just horribly skewed to adoption is the one and only way. It is not acceptable and how those who promote this sleep at night is beyond my comprehension.
I don't think so. I'm not an abuser and I might choose closed adoption, in theory - but that isn't reality much these days, and it could be that its not best for the child. I've been interested in following this blog because I hope to adopt and want to know both sides of the story. Open adoption is scary, though - hard to know what you are getting into. I enjoy foster parenting, but its hard to know how a permanent relationship with their parents would work out.
Did you happen to catch Lori Holden on Creating a Family earlier this week? Interesting discussion fo the fear aspect of OA, I thought. http://www.creatingafamily.org/radioshow.html