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First of all, let me say that I understand that biological children are also sometimes referred to as "gifts" or "blessings." But the terminology is frequently used in a very specific way in discussions of adoption. This is what I'm referring to. Parents may consider both adoptees and biological children gifts or blessings, but adoptees are much more likely to grow up hearing this emphasized. Is there something inherently wrong with considering our children, bio or adoptive, to be gifts or blessings? Not necessarily. But adoptees tend to be sensitive and alert regarding the language used to define our connection to the family. "Gift" has some subtle implications that might not be immediately obvious but make sense when you think about them.