I've already shared here about the day Erica was forced to make a quick departure from her apartment as a result of a domestic violence incident on the part of her ex-partner. What I didn't share at the time, for safety reasons, was where she went that day. Now that she's no longer here I can tell you that the undisclosed location where she and her sons were hiding out was my house. Yes, that's right. We took open adoption to a whole new level. Two moms under one roof!
What was it like having Erica and her sons here? It was actually quite wonderful. Hectic. Sometimes loud. (Her boys are 4 and 1-plus.) But mostly wonderful. They've moved out now, and I miss them. So does Ashley, of course, but she's also looking forward to visiting Erica and the boys in their new apartment next week. And we are helping her cope as we always do, mostly by listening to whatever is up for her.
On the adoptee side of the equation, things are good in Reunionville these days. My mother was here recently for a week that included my birthday, and my brother and his wife were also here for my big day. This year's celebration was especially significant because it was the first birthday that I have ever spent with my first mother. And if that wasn't enough excitement for any adoptee to handle in and of itself, I also saw my first father on that day! We all (by which I mean me, my first mom, my brother and his wife, my husband, our daughters, Erica, Erica's wonderful new boyfriend, and her sons) attended an outdoor musical event where my father and his catering partner were running a food concession. And it was by the ocean. Have I ever mentioned how much I love the ocean?
Later my first mom bought me a lobster roll for dinner. And that was pretty awesome. Because, you know, lobster roll! But it wasn't the best part of the day. Just getting to be with her, as well as with so many other people I love, was the best part.