I am delighted to feature the following guest post by Joyce Genet of Techquanimity. Joyce left a comment on this blog recently that got me thinking, so I invited her to expand on the comment. The following post on mindful use of Facebook is the result. I hope you will enjoy her post and will check out her website as well. You can also connect with her on twitter and, of course, Facebook.
That was me as a social media newbie. I've gotten a lot better since then. Ironically, checking regularly allows me to spend less total time because I'm not tempted to read everything new. So, that's an improvement, but after reading Rebecca Hawkes recent post Connected, Part One I commented that "surfing, tweeting, posting, commenting, and instagramming intentionally and with a mindful attitude can be a wonderful way to connect with friends and family near or far and to meet new friends.”
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There is a tradition in Buddhism called Metta Meditation. It is the sending of Loving Kindness to all beings by wishing them safety, wellness, and peace. We meditatively repeat phrases such as: May you be safe, May you be happy and healthy, and May you dwell in peace while mentally focusing on various people or groups. Usually it begins with ourselves, and spreads outward to benefactors and loved ones, to those who are neutral, then to difficult people in our lives, and eventually to everyone -- all beings, in all directions.
My intent is to practice Metta Meditation while checking Facebook. I'll set my meditation timer, center myself, and consciously and meditatively go through my Facebook newsfeed. With each post I'll call up visions of that friend and wish them safety, wellness and peace. I will pay attention to sensations and reactions within myself and wish myself safety, wellness and peace. When my mind wanders, I will gently bring it back to the post at hand. I will "like" when I honestly like; I will comment when the comment is kind and from the heart; I will "share" when it feels important to share. And when the meditation timer chimes, I will close Facebook.
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Will I? Certainly not every time. I've already quickly checked a couple posts and didn't set a timer and didn't take time with each and every friend's post, but the feeling of connecting with each person individually and on a personal level carried over. Some posts seemed to ask for more of a connection, so I slowed down, sent them Loving Kindness and felt the connection deeply. I plan to make Facebook Metta a regular practice and write about this again on my blog at www.techquanimity.com. If you decide to try this, I’d love to hear about your experiences as well. And feel free to contact me if you have any questions about Metta meditation.
This post is one of a series of posts on the subject of connection. To read the full series, please click here.